I’ve been trying to decide whether to post about this or not. I decided not yesterday, but today I think maybe I should write it out and see how I feel. So here goes.
My mum came around yesterday. I don’t see her too much, due to the situation with my father.
We got to talking about some family stuff and it came out that my Aunty had told me something that my Mum didn’t want me to know. I won’t go into details here but I’m glad that I know.
She became enraged that my Aunty had told me and that I had told my sister. She insists that it was her right to decide when (if) we were told. It is not a secret of hers. Not about her. About another family member. Something I’m glad we now know. My sister and I believe it’s important we know.
She became so distressed and said some unfortunate things.
She is grieving for her father. She is stressed. There’s a lot going on for her right now.
She said that she feels perhaps she should cut off contact between herself and us.
My sister is 34 weeks pregnant with her second child. My mother is demonising my sister and I. Has decided that we are the problem, causing her the stress. Instead of leaving her abusive, alcoholic husband, a man who hates her and is almost unbearable to live with, she is shutting us out.
She has told almost none of the extended family that her marriage is over, so, in front of them, she behaves as though everything is normal. It is undignified and wrong. Quite frankly it’s disgusting. She’s choosing that over a relationship with her children.
My sister doesn’t know if she’ll ever be able to speak to her again.
I just don’t know. I can’t believe this has happened to our family.
My father really fucked things up years ago but I can’t believe things have ended up this way with my mother.
I don’t know how to feel.
How can she think that this is okay?